Comments on: The Discipline of BEing? Wait Does That Work?

By: lwayswright

lwayswright — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 02:04:50 +0000

I feel ya! There are so many days when I feel like there has got to be more to life then this. There has got to be more then just coping with illness, an angry dad, taking care of kids and putting what I really want on the back burner until…well…until when? But, taking care of my kids and family is a grace filled job, a never ending life of wonderment no matter how frustrating and nerve wracking. But often I wonder when does my time come? so, like you…how do I live in these moments of grace? How do i accept this time for what it is?

By: Alicia

Alicia — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 23:48:19 +0000

I so understand! I sometimes feel like I should be doing something more productive with my life. Then I remind myself that raising my kids is a very important “job”. As SAHM’s, we do not drive off to work every day, but we do “work” – we am responsible for little lives and a household – that is doing something!

Thanks for the comment on my post on life after baby.

By: Mich

Mich — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 23:44:08 +0000

(((Val))) One of the regrets that plays in my mind is the opposite of yours; I wish I could have been home more for my girl. I wish I’d stayed home and had more kids rather than having to “raise” someone else’s. Of course, had I done that, likely my regrets would have been sounding more like yours. It’s just the way I’m built I guess. I think I’ll always have that “I coulda been a contender” way of thinking.

From the perspective of this 48 year old, you are still young (mature, but chronologically speaking, young). I didn’t even become a teacher until I was 31. And you are obviously way more imaginative and centered than I’ll ever be. The time is fleeting; your girls will grow before you know it. Mine will be 15 next month!! Where did that time go? As they get a little more independent, you will be able to do more and more as well.

Just want to make sure that you know that this is certainly not meant to chastise or anything close to that (hard to know how it reads); I simply mean this to encourage and share some.

By: kellimcgill

kellimcgill — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 15:09:20 +0000

Well written, Val! You have just summed up the way every stay at home mom feels at some point in time (or at lots of points in time). Hang it there

By: Sarah

Sarah — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 01:37:35 +0000

Though it’s not lofty, DOing something you weren’t sure you could just plain feels good. I know that’s not Christiany or transcendent, but something about it feels right. We all need to revisit our Industry vs Inferiority stage of development from time to time. I think those stages are more cyclical than linear. Sometimes I can satisfy that need through small things, like painting or sewing -just any genuine expression of self. Just don’t beat yourself up for wanting to be a DOer or not being a BEer as much as you want. I think sometimes BEing can come out of DOing, even if it’s small.

By: killlashandra

killlashandra — Thu, 28 Feb 2008 19:57:25 +0000

Sounds like time for a time out. Wow you’ve got more questions circling around in your brain than sharks in a frenzy. The only person to answer the why haven’t done anything question is yourself. However, with the internet there is a lot you can do and stay at home. If you’re interested in going back to school check out the online schools, there’s tons of programs. Think about hobbies you haven’t tried but would like too, that one worked for me.

Stay well.

By: Jodie

Jodie — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 23:26:06 +0000

So I’m not the only one that feels like this? Whew! What a relief?

Well you know, without the kids part.

By: KL

KL — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 18:14:58 +0000

I just wrote a novel of a response here. Instead of clogging up your comments area, I’ll just say you’re not alone. I could have written this blog post myself.

Hugs, girl. As for the chafing caused by being in this position, I recommend talc. Helps a lot.